How The Lefkoe Process Works To get a sense of how the Lefkoe Belief Process LBP works, please try the following mental exercise: Assume you are a very young child with parents who are very critical of you most of the time and who rarely acknowledge you for your achievements. What would you have concluded about yourself by this time? Today, as an adult, even though you might consciously realize the beliefs were silly and illogical, on some deep level you still would experience them as the truth about you. And if that behavior could have a number of valid meanings, it has no single inherent meaning. At which point you would be forced to conclude that the only place that meaning has ever existed has been as a belief in your mind. If you were to state the words of the belief, they would sound silly and meaningless.
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How the Lefkoe Belief Process works, Part 1 Many of you who have eliminated at least one belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process have asked me for more details on how it actually works. Feeling patterns could include fear, hostility, shyness, anxiety, depression, or worrying about what people think of you. Behavioral patterns could include phobias, relationships that never seem to work, violence, procrastination, unwillingness to confront people, an inability to express our feelings, sexual dysfunction, or anti-social behavior.
Wherever I am, I should be someplace else, doing something else. I never do a good enough job. Never any rest. Many clients already agree that their beliefs have this power, but agreement is not required for the LBP to be effective.
One must, however, be willing accept that idea for the duration of the session. Finding a Belief I then asked the client what he believed, at the moment, that logically could account for the current, undesirable pattern that he just had just presented to me.
Most people either will say they have no idea why they do what they do, or they will come up with a multitude of reasons. This step is designed to elicit one or more beliefs that he probably was not conscious of before the LBP began that logically would manifest as his undesirable pattern.
This belief at least partially explains why he never had a sense of doing a good job, of really being satisfied with whatever he did. In other words, the pattern is the result of the belief s , and it would be virtually impossible to permanently change the pattern as long as the belief s existed. There were several other beliefs and all of them had to be eliminated before the pattern disappeared totally. The Source of Beliefs Once the belief is identified, the client is asked to say the words of the belief out loud to confirm that he actually does hold this belief.
Then, the client is asked to look for the earliest circumstances or events that led him to form the belief. Fundamental beliefs about life and about oneself—for example, self-esteem-type beliefs—usually are formed before the age of six. For the most part they are based on interactions with our parents and other primary caretakers, if any.
Beliefs in other areas of life, such as work and society, are formed at the time those areas of life are encountered. Although the client usually can identify the relevant early events in five or ten minutes, at times he spends as much as half an hour recalling various events from his childhood.
At some point he identifies the pattern of events that led him to form the belief in question. My experience with over 13, clients indicates that beliefs rarely are formed based on only one or two events. Usually a great many similar events are required. When I asked this particular client the source of his belief, he described a childhood in which his mother was always telling him what to do and what not to do. Nothing he ever did was good enough for her.
He never received any praise and was criticized a lot. Our beliefs are almost always a reasonable explanation for the events we observe at the time we observe them. Thus the client is never told that his beliefs are irrational or wrong. In other words, the client as a child observed his mother doing and saying various things over a long period of time. The point here is not to convince the client that his belief is unreasonable, he just needs to realize that there are many different meanings, each one of which is logically consistent with the events he experienced.
The principles that underlie this distinction are: Events have no inherent meaning. All meaning is in our minds. All beliefs are merely the meaning we assign to events. Do they have an inherent meaning? It usually takes a short conversation before most clients really understand that events have no inherent meaning, that all meaning is in our mind. Finally, to receive notice of new blog posts, please fill out the following form.
Is The Lefkoe Belief Process a Fraud
Almost every approach to change has you learn something new. If you procrastinate, you learn a self-motivation technique to get you going. Because these methods try to help you cope with or eliminate your symptoms, but they never eliminate the cause of those symptoms, which is like building a house on a shaky foundation. The Lefkoe Method TLM enables you to replace the foundation by eliminating the causes of our problems: limiting beliefs and emotional conditioning. And that allows you to build a new house with a firm foundation that can weather any storm.
How the Lefkoe Belief Process works, Part 1
Lefkoe Belief Process